The Vacuum Will Draw it in If You Leave it a Vacuum

Transitions in themselves are difficult. We leave something familiar behind and head toward something unknown. Even if the move was desired, there is always a period of adjustment, a time when things are not as comfortable as they were. We are in flux and not quite sure where we are going.

As familiar props fall away, we enter a rarefied zone of unknown possibilities. Before new forms can come into existence, we first must pass through a place without form. This is the juice of the transition. It is here that the vacuum sucks in to itself all the things that belong to us. If we are brave enough to stay in this void long enough to allow the natural process to take place, we will draw to us what we need.

This is not merely wishful thinking. It is physics, a law of the universe that is always true. When you want to add something new to your life, get rid of something old. Throw something out, give away clothes, and get rid of the deadbeat boyfriend. The universe will recognize a vacuum, and it will soon be filled.

To understand how it works, we must be willing to stop trying to control the process. The more we panic and hastily add to the empty space, the further away we move from what nourishes our souls. There is a conscious evolution to this transition that will reveal itself in time. This potent period heralds a new beginning, and it is in our best interests to let go and get out of the way.

We may feel afraid, but that is okay. Sure, it’s scary when we don’t know what is happening, but fear has no power over us when we are willing to acknowledge the feeling, feel it, and do nothing. It is only our reaction to fear that causes us to be impatient and jump the gun. We are so petrified of the nothingness; we create something, anything, to hold on to.

In reality, we are more frightened of being afraid than we are of the actual nothingness. Once we surrender to not having all the parts of the puzzle, we can relax a little. We know we can step in and take charge if need be, but now is not the time. Even though our natural inclination is to do something, we need to do nothing and wait.

To stay in the void takes courage and discipline. The universe has innate intelligence and will automatically create a vacuum out of that nothingness. And left alone, that vacuum will pull to it exactly what we need.

Chapter 26 from Reality Works Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander

Choosing a Retro Argentina Football Kit – A Look at 2 Famous Argentina Football Shirts From the Past

The blue and white stripes of those Argentina football shirts from the past are perhaps even as iconic as the yellow and blue kits of Brazil. That is why the retro Argentina football kit is so sought after these days, especially Argentina football shirts from the seventies and eighties.

Diego Maradona the manager has really struggled to get his Argentinean team to qualify for this year’s World Cup finals, in South Africa. At one point during qualification it looked like the unthinkable might happen and that the World’s biggest football competition would be without one of its most flamboyant teams. Thankfully, that was not the case, but nonetheless the current side does not appear to be the force that it was when Maradona the player was the star of the team.

Below we look at two famous Argentina football shirts from the past, from a time when the “La Albiceleste” were the best team in the world.

Argentina 1978 World Cup Shirt

The Argentina 1978 World Cup strip is a retro Argentina football kit from one of the most memorable tournaments of all. Argentina were on home soil and so were well fancied, however, they were up against the “total football” of the Dutch, who were extremely unlucky in the 1974 World Cup and were expected to win it this time round.

The final between Argentina and Holland was a classic, with Johan Cruyff the star of the show. However, Argentina had their stars too, including Ossie Ardiles, just before his groundbreaking transfer to Tottenham Hotspur later that summer. They also had Mario Kempes, who was the leading goal scorer in the 1978 tournament, scoring a total of six goals, including two in the final itself.

Argentina managed to beat Holland 3-1 after extra time to win the World Cup and ensure that the 1978 World Cup shirt would become one of the most iconic Argentina football shirts of all time.

Argentina 1986 World Cup Shirt

The Argentina 1986 World Cup strip is another retro football kit featuring the famous blue and white stripes. It is nearly always associated with one man, a football genius who practically single-handedly won Argentina their second World Cup. That man of course was Diego Maradona and it is partly because of those performances wearing that particular retro Argentina football kit that he is considered by many to be the greatest footballer that ever lived.

These vintage football shirts have such a classic look to them and really do look great with a pair of jeans and trainers. As well as the classic blue and white stripes, the retro football kit features the gold and blue Argentinean shield.

Regional Observation: A Basic, Non-Professional View Of The Southeast Florida Landscape

I am what I call an “armchair urban and regional planner.” Some of you reading this article may know me just from seeing me drive around in my broken down Toyota. While writing about Southeast Florida’s changing landscape from “accidental region” into a complex multi-regional megalopolis is cool, I someday would like to photograph my visions. Stay tuned. In the meantime, here are some descriptive observations I’ve come up with – some original, some perhaps not – throughout the course of casually observing the region while commuting to and from:

COASTAL URBAN CORE = The densely populated core area of Southeast Florida, between I-95 and U.S. 1, where the majority of Southeast Florida’s residents reside.

CITY-PLEX = A city complex. A “Metroplex” or “Twin City” typed urban area. A metropolitan area with two or more major cities closely aligned (Ex: Dallas-Ft. Worth, Miami-Ft. Lauderdale, Minneapolis-St. Paul, etc.)

CITY-REGION = The representative description of a region or sub-region by its largest major city. (Ex: “The Miami Region”)

FLAGSHIP MODEL = A regional model in which the largest and most influential metro area, among two or more large, influential metro areas, within that regional structure, functions as the immediately recognizable, representative body of the entire regional structure.

IMMEDIATE MIAMI VICINITY = Miami and its immediate surrounding areas.

LOCAL CHALLENGE OF INTER-REGIONAL MOBILITY = The regional dilemma involving the complex set of problems that concern the best way to achieve optimal citizen, business and governmental logistical mobility, within context of a regional setting.

MASS-TRANSIT BUBBLE = A small self-contained area, within a regional context, serviceable by mass transit, that also feeds into a mass transit loop. (Ex: Palm Beach County is its own service area but feeds into the larger Tri-Rail serviced Tri-County Area.)

MASS-TRANSIT LOOP = A large interconnected area, serviceable by mass transit, that’s bound by sub-regional borders. (Ex: Treasure Coast, Tri-County, the Keys, Everglades.)

MASS-TRANSIT NEXUS = The dynamic convergence and culmination of all available mobility options within a regional setting.

METRO BELT = A metropolis, region or mega region served by a beltway styled freeway system. (Ex: Jacksonville, Tampa, Atlanta, Washington, D.C.)

METRO NODE: A major urban concentration or point, usually a specific city with surrounding suburbs and towns, within a regional setting. (Ex: Miami, Ft. Lauderdale, West Palm Beach are major urban points within Southeast Florida’s coastal regional structure.)

METRO STRETCH = An elongated, densely-populated, highly-urbanized metropolis, megalopolis or mega region formed along a coastal highway network. A flagship modeled region along a major highway system that lacks a beltway freeway system.

MIAMI-INFLUENCED AREA = Synonymous with Southeast Florida. The entire regional structure that includes the city, county and natural areas of Indian River, St. Lucie, Martin, Palm Beach, Broward, Miami-Dade and Monroe counties.

PBTC METRO = The general news channel viewing area, within the larger Southeast Florida regional structure, commonly referred to as the Palm Beaches and the Treasure Coast.

REGIONAL DILEMMA = An issue, want, need or concern that drives an individual, business or governing entity to utilize all available mobility options, within a regional context, to acquire economic, political or social satisfaction.

REGIONAL-INTERFACE DESIGN = The general craft of designing, planning and constructing how residents and visitors will best access resources and mobility options on a regional level.

REGIONAL REALIZATION = The matching of a region’s goals with its vision of itself.

SPHERE OF INFLUENCE = The general common characteristic vicinity of a major metro area, within a regional structure, that includes the largest city or city complex and its surrounding suburbs, exurbs and bedroom communities. (Example: Miami’s sphere of influence extends from Miami roughly upwards to Pompano Beach. Ft. Lauderdale’s sphere of influence extends roughly from Hollywood to Boca Raton. West Palm Beach’s sphere of influence extends roughly from Lake Worth upwards to Indian River County.)

SOUTHEAST FLORIDA MASS-TRANSIT NEXUS = The dynamic convergence of large national and regional mass transit systems that will culminate and interact with smaller mass-transit outfits, throughout the South Florida regional structure.

These are all just ways of looking at Southeast Florida’s landscape, in simple terms, from the point of view of a non-professional citizen. I’ll be updating my findings, as I go along, to match further observation. In the meantime, for those considering locating a business headquarters, brand or institution in this region, please contact any local chamber of commerce or convention and visitors bureau for more standardized descriptions.

Men’s Shirts – Hello Mister Bond

“Hello, Mr. Bond.”

James bond in his crisp white shirt is the epitome of style and confidence. Men’s shirts are a way to break out of the office doldrums and really show your own creative genius. Make your shirts a real statement about your style. Dark rich colours with contrasting light coloured ties; a monochromatic combination of light sexy baby blue or powder pink with perfectly matching tie; the 100% cotton white shirt with pearl buttons and sophisticated top stitching all make a statement when you walk into the room. What ever it is that you want to communicate; think about it, find your groove and make a splash. Cheer up the girls in the office with your dapper ways.

“Made it, Ma! Top of the World.”

Changing your style is one way to get noticed in an increasingly competitive job market. Your jacket is the frame and the men’s shirt the matting that will enhance artwork contained within it. The shirt works to frame the tie, braces (which are underwear) and the face. What colours will enhance these features? Look at the whole picture and determine what story you want the viewer to participate in. Sometimes the shirt can be the artwork; attention to detail in fabric, colour, design, print, top stitching and collar are like the brush details on a fine painting. The suit and tie then ground and frame the art, which is the shirt and should not compete with it.

“Hasta la vista, baby.”

As a minimum a man should have at least 3 white shirts and 2 blue. This gives us 5 shirts and we can do the laundry on the weekend. If you plan to work through most weekends or travel extensively for business or pleasure. Invest in more. The more shirts you have the less frequently you have to do laundry or make it to the dry cleaners.

“Well it’s not the men in your life that count, it’s the life in your men.”

Colour, fabric and style of collar and cuff will tell a story about the man and the shirt. Buy the best quality fabric that you can, the smoother and finer the cotton the dressier the man’s shirt. Choose a collar that suits your face and body frame and make sure that the cuffs fit properly. The cuffs of a man’s shirt should not slide off over the wrist nor should they get stuck when you lift your arms up in the air.

“Love your shirt.”

Finally, make sure that the shirt fits. Measure and try on before buying. Do not purchase men’s shirts in plastic bags with the pins still in. Take it out and try it on. Make sure that the fit is not too tight or too big through the torso. The current fashion is a little more tailored and fitted through the upper body.

“You had me at Hello.”

Men’s shirts make a statement. Think about the leading men in film, remembering their most famous roles it is easy to picture the shirt that each was wearing. What do you want to be remembered for? Find a style that really makes you feel like a leading man in your own life.

Just a Game Or Mathematical Genius?

This word bookmaker is used to refer to persons who take bets on competitive events at pre-established odds. The job of a bookmaker is to accept bet placements in such a ratio that regardless of who loses and who wins, he will still have made a lot of profit.

In certain countries, this activity is considered illegal and even in those ones where it is legal, at times there are no legal provisions for enforcing debts that arise from such activity. But in countries where it is recognized by law, the government earns quite a large amount of revenue from it and that is why certain countries have a legal bookmaker under the state’s control.

It is more established in the United Kingdom than in the United States; in the former, it is legally acknowledged and bets are placed on a broader array of sports. They even have an organization in charge of regulating settlement disputes. On the other hand, the latter has made it illegal in all states but Nevada and when carried out illegally, it only covers college sports and professional events.

Even though the UK still has them located at the racecourse, technology has caught up with some and made them shift to their PCs with the internet making the job a whole lot easier. But this limits under age gamblers and those in countries where it is prohibited as they are not allowed to gamble on such websites. They may connect online casinos but their disadvantage is that they increase the numbers of gambling addicts. Some operators though have shied away from technology seeing as the betters are cutting down their profit margins by comparing notes with other bettors through betting exchanges, a resource which even they can use to determine how to place their odds based on market trends.

Governments are not having a lot of success in regulating online outfits from entering their spaces. Greater success has been experienced by those authorities that have licensed all forms of betting but put in place stringent measures for the operation of associated outfits. This way, the government exercises a measure of control over how they are run.

A sleazy side to the industry becomes evident in cases of match fixing, where teams play to a prearranged outcome – either fully or partially which is both a legal breach and also a contravention of the rules of any game. But many countries are now relaxing their stance as the industry is now getting significant roles to play in society like in sponsoring sports activities and that has got the names of some of the firms on players’ T-shirts and on stadium signs a situation which is facing a lot of opposition in certain countries where there is low tolerance for gambling and such ones continue in the war against online participants.

Clearwater Beach to St. Petersburg Beach — Homes and Condos for Sale

Just west of Tampa in Pinellas County you will find Florida’s West Coast Barrier Islands. These islands have some of the most electric communities to be found among beach communities world-wide. They include Clearwater Beach, Island Estates, Sand Key, Belleair Beach, Belleair Shores, Indian Rocks Beach, Indian Shores, Redington Shores, North Redington Beach, Madeira Beach, Treasure Island and St. Pete Beach.

These areas are blessed with sandy beaches and natural unspoiled landscapes with clear, sparkling Gulf waters, a subtropical climate, and an abundance of glorious Florida sunshine — 365 days a year!

Pinellas County’s barrier islands are accessed via causeways and bridges and each community has its own unique flavor. Because of the mix of many different cultures, foods, music, and entertainment, life on these islands varies from one island to the next. You can find everything from a relaxed escape from the usual rat race of everyday life, to the exhilarating hip-grinding beats of the live music being played at the clubs.

The island of Sand Key is just one of the many different communities you will find here. Sand Key is mostly a residential location of townhouses, homes, and luxury high rise condominiums. This island community does offer shopping and restaurants as well, housing two major hotels on its north end. This is a place to slow down and take the time to truly enjoy the simpler things in life. For the more adventurous, there is the Sand Key County Park, and nearby Clearwater Sailing center that provides for various recreational activities.

Clearwater Beach is another of Florida’s Barrier Islands. Clearwater Beach is 4 miles of pristine sandy beach, and supplies visitors and residents with plenty of water and beach activities including parasailing, fishing, swimming, jet-skiing and volleyball to name just a few. Clearwater’s infamous “Pier 60” has music, arts and crafts, and a daily celebration of the spectacular sunsets viewed from the pier. This community is alive with activity. They have hotels, shopping, and fine dining. Waterfront homes and condominiums are what residents can find for quality housing. A trolley is used to transport people between Clearwater beach and the mainland and also for trips to nearby Sand Key. You will find plenty of venues providing live music and you are only a short-trolley trip away from the city of Clearwater’s many music and dance nightclubs.

Madeira Beach is yet another island community just off Florida’s western coast. As a direct-entry point to the Gulf, you will find daily fishing, and cruising charters. This community has plenty of waterfront shops and fine dining restaurants. Residents are found living in various dwellings such as condos, apartments, and luxurious waterfront single-family homes.

Belleair Shores is a private community island with million-dollar waterfront homes. Access to this areas beach is restricted to use by residents only. There are no public access beaches in Belleair Shores. This is a community for those who desire to live in an area removed from the common everyday life found in other communities.

So if you’re looking to relocate to the sunny Pinellas West Coast of Florida, and would like to move away from ordinary living, consider contacting a Tampa Bay area real estate agent to discuss the different island communities. Your real estate agent can arrange for you to tour the different Barrier Islands that populate Pinellas County Florida’s West Coast, so that you can discover the community that offers the lifestyle and housing options that are right for you. Your real estate representative can assist you in finding the financing to buy your new property as well. These friendly, knowledgeable real estate agents are also a good resource for all of the information that you will need in order to make your transition to becoming a Florida resident a smooth as possible.

Real Estate And Social Networking In Today’s World

Social Networking is and has become a huge part of how we all do business and communicate with others. The electronic world is upon us and we as Realtors need to embrace the new technologies that present themselves to do our business more efficiently and to react to our clients in the same way that they live their lives. I have been teaching the use of Social Networking in today’s Real Estate market for a while now within my market center and can tell you that it has been welcomed with open arms by most of the agents in our offices.

This was not always the case. When I first tried to introduce YouTube for example, it was frowned on as a place where people with too much time on their hands could play around. And although this is the case for some of the individuals on YouTube, the environment that is now owned by Google, has been a tremendous opportunity for people, agents, companies, etc to advertise their wares indirectly through the use of video media. And on top of that, it is FREE. The agents in the office, after an extended time of understanding what it can do for their business, saw the light bulbs in their heads go off.

YouTube, Facebook, Online Forums, Social Bookmarking, Blogging, etc are all opportunities that are available in our lives to become known in an online world. We all want to be known, and the more you interface online, the more chances of being found. My classes now are pretty much sold out (I don’t charge anything) and the agents understand the importance of what I teach.

In addition to being found, these mediums assist in the SERP (search engine Ranking Page or Position) which is where your website will be found after performing a search for a particular term. For example, if I were to want to rank on a term like Tampa Real Estate, I would probably include those words in my keywords for my YouTube video, or my blog, etc. This in turn would eventually be indexed by the search engines, and would be pointing back to my page so it would be a pointer to my page and if someone came across that info, they may click through to my page and so on.

Real Estate is all about Networking in every sense of the word and Social Networking should make perfect sense, be Social and Network. So for you agents out there that have not embraced Social Networking, you either need to understand where your clients are communicating with each other, or you need to find another profession. Real Estate is in the middle of a transition, and you can either be along for the ride and position yourself well, or not. It is really up to you.

I Love NY – T-Shirts, Mugs, Posters, and Other Ways a Simple Message Triumphs

Want to wear one of the greatest advertising campaigns of the last century? Take a look at some “I Love NY” t-shirts next time you have a chance. The design — brainchild of the brilliant Milton Glaser — couldn’t be simpler. The letter I, a heart N, and Y, arranged in a square. In fact, the only thing simpler is the message — of course people love New York. How could the city maintain millions of residents and attract millions of tourists if that weren’t the case?

The genius of the “I love NY” t-shirts is that they lay a unique claim to a common feeling. By wearing “I love NY” t-shirts, people are saying something fairly common — that they’re fans of New York city — but they’re saying it in an aesthetically appealing way. This is one of the best design tricks around: find a simple way to express a simple thought, but in a way not quite like what anyone has done before. As the uniqueness of the “I love NY” t-shirts demonstrates, it’s pretty hard to do this consistently.

One effect of “I love NY” t-shirts is that copying or referencing the design has become a major part of popular culture. The phrase “I love [x]” was rescued from mawkishness by “I love NY” t-shirts, and forever turned into a lighthearted way to express an exuberantly positive, common emotion. So it’s no wonder that numerous organizations have used the logo with slight variations (including puns on ‘spade’ and ‘club’ as opposed to just ‘heart’).

Another side effect of the “I love NY” t-shirts is that the ‘heart’ logo has transcended the slogan, and turned into an actual verbal expression. Originally textual, the phrase “I heart [x]” has developed as an even more free and fun version of “I love…”, even finding its way into the title of a film, I Heart Huckabees. There aren’t many advertising slogans that can claim to be so ubiquitous. Among the other slogans that have reached a similar level of popularity, few have been able to maintain it for so long. A reference to “Where’s the beef?” today leads to awkward stares, rather than laughs.

Interestingly enough, this popularity simply fed into the original trend. With so many people referencing “I love NY” t-shirts, the shirts themselves turned into a crucial fashion item. With so many reminders of the shirts, someone who briefly considered buying one wouldn’t have the chance to forget — during a single day, they might stumble across a review of I Heart Huckabees, an “I love…” line, and a logo that used a heart icon.

This is the most crucial lesson from “I love NY” t-shirts. If you’re going to create a successful trend, you’ll want to make one that’s self-reinforcing — that gives people a reason, not just to participate, but to make their friends want to participate, too. If you look at the sites of retailers who sell “I love NY” t-shirts, you’ll find that many of them also offer different versions, or plays on the same theme. If you can get people doing that, you probably have a design that’s going to last.

10 Great Computer, Science and Math T Shirts To Make Your Friends Jealous

If you are into science and math, then you should be into funny science or math t shirts that reflect your unique and fun personality. Why not make more science and math friends and break the ice with the simple logical use of printing on cotton. It’s easy, it’s elegant and it just makes sense. If you calculate the cost of the tee and graph it against increased popularity, you will note that wearing funny tees is directly proportional to growing popularity as well as an increase in coolness. On top of that, your clever tees will make you the envy of all your friends, spurring them into action to outdo you. So, whatever you do, don’t share this list.

  1. Stand Back I’m Going To Try Science T Shirt – If everyone takes a few steps back, we won’t have to search for body parts later, right? This is the perfect shirt for the Chemistry majors in your life.
  2. Computer Club Is Sexy T Shirt – Do you know binary? If so, this super cool shirt says Computer Club is Sexy which is perfect for, you guessed it, computer club members.
  3. Apple Pi T Shirt – An apple + the Pi sign, you figured it out, you genius you. This tee is great for math students and teachers alike.
  4. Time Travel T Shirt – “If You Are Interested In Time Travel Meet Me Last Wednesday” is sure to spark some hot conversations. Hey, math and science people have an excellent sense of humor, it’s time others knew about it.
  5. Math is Radical T Shirt – With the use of the right sign, you have a perfect tee shirt for a wild math lovin’ guy or gal.
  6. Mathlete T Shirt – You may not be a track star, a football player or a swimmer, but you can sure solve math problems with multiple swipes of a pencil. You, my friend, are a mathlete and need a tee to show it.
  7. 4 Out of 3 People Are Bad At Fractions T Shirt – If you love a good math joke, this is it. Fractions? What are those? Whole numbers people, let’s stick with those.
  8. Find X Funny Math T Shirt – Circle the X (instead of solving for it), this is one of our most beloved tees, plus, people really think it’s funny.
  9. Keeping It Real Math T Shirt – If you get what i squared is (a real number) and you don’t think it’s “i 2” then you are a math person to be sure. You’ll see this t shirt sorts out the math haves from the math have nots pretty quickly!
  10. Darwin T Shirt – Calling all lovers of science, the Darwin T Shirt is classy and makes you look like you know people.

Tools to Help Stepchildren Transition Into Stepfamily Life

Hands down, bringing two households together to form a stepfamily can be hard work and the art of ‘blending’ is often more difficult than first anticipated. The impact children have on the survival of the stepfamily is great and this is only compounded when stepsiblings do not get along. This can place substantial strain on a couple’s relationship; thus, placing the stepfamily unit at risk. With stepfamilies facing the highest rate of break-up during the first 2 years it is essential for couples to approach merging their families from a systematic standpoint.

First and foremost, couples need to plan, plan, and then plan some more! Not enough can be said about the importance of planning and its function in preserving the stepfamily unit. From informing one’s own children of his/her intention to remarry to aspects of daily living in the new family unit, tensions between stepfamily members can be eased by a well-thought out plan as it provides much needed structure. It is also good for soon-to-be stepchildren to be afforded the opportunity to get to know each other before adults remarry and everyone finds himself or herself living under the same roof.

It is important to remember that for most children the forming of a stepfamily indicates the death of the first family. The remarrying of a parent to another adult also dashes children’s hopes that their biological parents will get back together. Leaving children with a sense of loss, many are confused about their new role in the blended family. For example, an older child may no longer be the eldest in the stepfamily and a single child may now be faced with sharing with stepsiblings.

Couples can help ease this transition by establishing and helping everyone understand the 3Rs: rules, roles and responsibilities. The 3Rs help create structure in the stepfamily unit. Roles and responsibilities in stepfamilies do not evolve along the natural trajectory as they do in the biological family. Given this it is important for each stepfamily member’s role and associated responsibilities to be understood. In addition, rules for the household are important. The children’s involvement in the creation and implementation of certain household rules is important as this empowers each person in the stepfamily. And while the adult couple makes final decisions, eliciting feedback and allowing influence from the stepchildren works to develop and eventually strengthen stepfamily bonds.

Another important step to helping stepchildren adjust to each other and the new family structure involves giving little tokens of appreciation. Stepfamilies are often experienced as an “instant family,” rather than a biological, or first family, which goes through the traditional motions to assemble and build the family unit. Given this, attention needs to be placed on developing these relationships and then maintaining them. Gestures that show gratitude such as saying hello and offering a smile go a long way in this endeavor. Such greetings can even be incorporated into the new family’s household rules. In addition to communicating a degree of respect, such tokens of appreciation lay the needed groundwork to slowly unite family members.

Combined, these strategies can go a long way in starting the stepfamily off on the right foot and in helping children adjust to their new step relationships. It is important to remember that relationships in a stepfamily take time and once established, need continued nurturing. Despite the effort, though, step relationships can be very rewarding.

In the beginning, one-on-one activities between stepfamily members can lesson the insider/outsider dichotomy that is heightened in ‘all together’ activities. Such gatherings should take place, but a mentality of ‘less is more’ will help ease the transition into stepfamily life. Gradually over time ‘all together’ activities will come more naturally and can be extended with greater acceptance from the stepchildren. Throughout this it will always be important for biological parent and child to spend one-on-one time together.

It is important that couples keep communication between them open, as this will help stepchildren through this transition. It will also further enable the adults to provide emotional support for their children and each other. While combining households can be a difficult process, it can be very rewarding. With more than half of American families being stepfamilies, the need for a focus on and understanding of stepfamily dynamics could not be greater. Here it is vital to remember that bumps in the road arise from the ‘step’ situation and not from anyone individual.

As Tampa Bay’s go-to stepfamily resource, Success for Steps ( http://www.successforsteps.com/ ) may be a useful resource for helping stepchildren transition into stepfamily life.